A Husband's Love for His Wife

This morning, I was meditating in my car (while dropping Mariah off to school) about the goodness of what God is doing in my life right now. He is making major changes in the order of our household, in my husband's relationship with Him, my daughter's relationship with Him and others, and I can see God moving through every part of our lives! We received two amazing prophetic words from a very gifted prophet whom you can also write at freeprophecy@gmail.com. His name is Jeff and he has a wonderful spirit, and the Lord speaks clearly to him. The prophetic words we have received through brother Jeff have been rich, detailed, and absolutely "spot on," as to where we are in our lives right now and where we are headed as a family!

Anyway, as I was meditating, the Lord gave me a revelation about the changes in power in our household He is doing right now. There has been a power struggle in our household that should never have been there, but God is patient, and He is teaching my husband and I how to live out a godly marriage. You see, the Bible says that the husband is the head of the wife, and that Christ is the head of the church, but that a husband should love his wife as Christ loves the church. Christ gave His life for the redemption of the church. This is some pretty serious selfless love! In the same passage, God says that wives should "submit" to their husbands in EVERYTHING. What a hard scripture to swallow for many women...but God's wisdom is greater than ours. And....since He created in the institution and covenant of marriage, He should know a thing or two about how it should operate to achieve the greatest success.

Ephesians 5:22-25 (NASB):

"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her."

Colossians 3:18 (NASB):

"Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them."

1 Peter 3:1-2 (NASB):

"In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word, by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior."

I will be quite honest, looking at the circumstances of my life (and the personality of my husband)...it looked as those I was the more dominant and powerful one in the relationship. Our marriage started out with me being in total control and me putting my husband into submission - which is totally wrong in God's eyes....but it is the truth of the matter for us. As I began to grow in my relationship with God, I began to be convicted of the scriptural truth to submit to my husband in EVERYTHING. That seemed pretty tough for me, going from wanting to be in total control over everything....but I knew in my heart that if God says to do it, there is a great purpose behind it. I know a lot of other women who are in that similiar situation. They live with passive husbands, so they just take control over the relationship and end up leading their husbands, instead of it being the other way around! We do this because as much as we HOPE that our husbands will step up to the plate and lead us, we don't see it happening, so we just take control over the situation. I have learned over the past year that this stems from two major things in my heart - FEAR and LACK OF TRUST in God.

If I trusted God, I would know that He will supply all of our families needs, both spiritually and physically and that His great love for me will overcome any obstacles we face. He can freely deal with my husband's heart in this situation, without me blocking out His Spirit with all my "help." Sadly, it took me about a year to surrender to this truth of God's Word. I stopped telling my husband what to do and started asking my husband to lead. One day, God said to me "If he asks you for the answer to a decision, DO NOT tell him what to do." This was so hard because the situation arose that very same day where my husband was asking me what we should do, and I had to tell him that the decision was completely his alone. The Lord had already told me that He was leading my husband, and that I needed to let God lead him, and let him lead ME. This is the order of marriage by God's standard.

Philippians 4:19 (NASB):

"And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus."


Does this mean that I do not have any spiritual gifts, or anything to contribute to the greatness of my marriage or the world around me? No. God actually told me that I was powerful in His kingdom, having many spiritual gifts that operated in power. He told me that my husband would be "greater than me" and that my husband was a "powerful man of God." I asked the Lord many times "Why did you give me all these gifts if I was not suppose to be in charge....especially with the gift of leadership?" God answered me, "Because that is meekness (power under control)." God has given me the gifts and the leadership, but He wants my husband to be a steward over ME and ALL the giftings that God has placed within me. God wants me to do His will by practicing submission to my husband's leadings and authority, therefore modeling meekness. This is also to represent the relationship between Christ and His bride (the church). She is powerful because He has made her powerful, but she must be in submission to Christ (the will of God), and she MUST practice meekness and demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit.

Matthew 5:5 (NKJV):

"Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth."

So, to come back to the original thought about marriage....God revealed something new about this in the car this morning.

He said to me, "When you are in a marriage where the husband is responsible for leading the family, he takes responsibility over your life and your future. You no longer are responsible for even yourself. He becomes responsible for you and your growth, and he will have to give an account for his family to Christ. In relation to Christ and the church, this is why I (the Lord) do for the church as well. I take responsibility for her, and I love her and keep her."

When God finished speaking, I realized the answer to the question I have been asking for so long. My husband is meant to be responsible for my life. He is in the position of authority, and God has blessed me by taking the burden for my own life off my shoulders. In the same way, God did this when he reached out from the cross with His blood and covered all the sins of those who believe in Him. He is now responsible for keeping you and being responsible for your life and salvation.

I know people are going to come against this revelation because there are many out there who are still trying to earn their way to heaven. They are trying to prove in their lives that what THEY DO or DON'T DO is going to either get them in heaven, or keep them out. God is saying today that He is in control of the lives of His bride, His saints, and He is responsible for bringing them into the Promised Land. When the bride is in submission, she will trust her husband and know that He will love her enough to keep her through all her trials and tribulations. This is further evidence of the truth that we are once saved, always saved, unless we decide to forfeit our inheritance and no longer choose (willfully) to be the bride of Christ. He will not keep us against our own will....but He will keep us when we have our eyes and hearts in submission to Him.

Today, I pray that God opens up your heart to understand the concept of godly submission in marriage, in your personal relationship with Him, and within the church itself. God has placed leaders over you that you must submit to, in order to keep order, and for God to be glorified through the relationship between Christ and the church. May God fill your heart with peace, joy and righteousness in the Holy Spirit. I pray that He would help those wives who are struggling to understand their role to submit to their husbands (not because they are lesser, but out of meekness) because it is God's will, and they wish to honor Him. God bless you in Jesus' name, Amen.

Thankful for my husband, Christ -

Sarah